Howdy..newbie here....

old , eccentric, impulsive , compassionate, vulgar and cerebral ... and hot ;P

I never delved into this group enough, but I'm Kate, single, etc. etc. - crazy, creatrive and extremely lonely lately. I am in my late '30s, have never had kids, never been married and I am beginning to feel kind of down about it. That I missed the bus and I doubt there will ever be another one coming for me again, though I stilll have a big heart and lots of passion left for someone great. Guess I was too picky and picked too many wrong guys all the time.

I'm pretty freaked out but am not sure what to do about it. I never did the online thing very well either. I live somewhere where I know I need to put myself out there more and get out more but I have no idea where. I'm a little too old for the club scene and I do not like it. I guess the only thing left is online dating. But either way, I have been alone way too long with short stints of romance since I had a long term relationship three years ago. I know better than to feel like a loser, but I am starting to feel so deprived over it all.

I wish I were not so picky but I am. I do not even want to be living where I am full time and hope to be able to move somewhere else within the next year. Just not sure what to do. My life is such that I don't have a lot of access to coffee cooler romance, etc.

I guess I just need to cool my heels a while more and try to get out here and there a little but I am starting to feel pretty darn bad about it. Well, at least Denise you are trying and I am sure you will at least have fun with it. I am thinking maybe I should do the personals thing - maybe if not for any long term romance but just for some company here and there.

Someone tell me that people in thier late '30s and 40s and beyond do not have to live celibate boring lives, that they still can meet and have a new life wating for themselves somewhere out there. I hope I do. It is what I want. I just know I don't want trouble is all and I do have a hard time feeling that certain spark at times with just anyone. It has to be there or it just is not and I cannot make it happen. Usually I can tell right off though I am willing to give it a chance, but if there is no chemistry, I just can't get down with it all.