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a light in the dark

londonculture — Tue, 26 Jun 2007 19:01:23 GMT

wouldn’t it be wonderful if we were all the same ? probably not. that’s what makes the mystery of life and the dynamics of each person we meet so appealing to understand. life is quiet intriguing, especially if you really understand the mechanics of what is going on and how you fit within the puzzle

If you understand the dynamics of astrology this will clarify the inner mechanics of the self, how we connect or do not connect with those we meet in life, as well as what it's all about.

i believe being empathic and intuitive is a gift based on how i have been able to help others, and i am learning how to enjoy it’s benefits. i have found that both are splenic qualities which can be used to help others as well as used to protect oneself.

being introverted means not having the right connections with those in your life, that would allow you to tap into your potential and externalize >> no throat activation in your chart means of consistent expression.

if you are sensitive it could be based upon old conditioning you felt obligated to take on in earlier years. funny how the world conditions and conforms us to be that which is different than ourselves. the true joy is in the experience and journey of unraveling what is not us and setting it to rest.

i've found that forcing ourselves to initiate things in life against or true natures is a cause of much pain and resistance.
sometimes it’s a simple as waiting to be recognized or invited into a conversation or waiting to respond that can change the direction our life is going.

i’m not posting this for my benefit, but solely on the fact that i found the last 25 years of my life to be painful living in the dark.. and now life is starting to unfurl in the right directions. hope it helps those interested.

if you are hungry for more understanding - here are a few links that I’ve found very useful.

Intoduction to Human Design PDF file –
http://www.unifiedlifesciences.com/ftp/education_papers/Intro_to_Design.pdf

To print your Chart, Download the JAM Player, HDS Software and Educational Resource Center visit -
www.jovianarchive.com/

Human Design Community / Forums / Education -
http://humandesign.com/

Books, Classes, and more Resources -
http://humandesignamerica.com/

cheers !

michael

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art project on my tribe page needs your comments

bragitta — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 11:18:39 GMT

I am creating an interactive art project on my tribe page
where I make an piece of art and then post a question of what I have been thinkng about
and the comments inspire the next piece of art and question

comments greatly inspire the projects direction
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Appearance vs. Reality

Wed, 23 Mar 2005 16:40:59 GMT

(Aside: I am gratified to have you all as members of our tribe! It was actually quite uncharacteristic of me to take the lead in establishing it; I'm usually the one who waits for other people to act. After I set it up, I had a brief moment of fear, like a girl who has just sent out invitations and worries, "What if nobody wants to come to my party?" I am so glad that my fears were unfounded!)

I have long been fascinated by the concept of appearance vs. reality, particularly as it relates to me. A few years back, I decided that the title of my yet-to-be-written autobiography would be "Under the Fluorescents," a phrase that I often used to describe how other people saw me (i.e., in the workplace). (I have since decided that another appropriate title for my still-unwritten autobiography would be "Administrative Nightmare," but that is beyond the scope of this post.)

I have spent nearly my entire career in Corporate America, despite my complete lack of "person-environment-fit" (a career counseling concept used to describe where a person best fits in). In the workplace, despite my unconventional dress (too casual for business, too business for casual, and perhaps a bit too gothy for work) and unnatural hair color, I am *perceived* as being shy, serious, and conservative. Because I generally keep to myself rather than engage in inane conversations about television shows that I have never watched or sports teams that I don't follow, people often get the impression that I am cold, aloof, unfriendly, and bitchy. (Does this sound familiar to anyone?) Early in my career, when I was working in a field dominated by men (i.e., nuclear engineering), co-workers would apologize if they used the f-word or told an off-color joke in my presence.

Most people at work (when I *had* a job, anyway) knew me only as a divorced mother of two school-age girls. I entertained a few other women with my horror stories about trying to find dates on the Internet, including anecdotes about the guy I referred to as "Mr. Herpes" and the 35-year-old virgin who lived with his parents. While my co-workers seemed entertained by my stories, they seemed shocked, shocked to hear me even *mention* sex.

I fare somewhat better socially, especially in smaller groups of people. When I feel at ease and when the topic of conversation is something in which I have interest, I am very talkative, animated, and expressive. (It is in such situations that people say to me, "You, introverted? No way!") Although I have never been the life of the party, close friends enjoy having me around because I'm a bit offbeat. Yet few of my closest friends have any idea of the tempest brewing just underneath the surface.

I do not do well in large crowds -- or on Internet dating websites. In large crowds (such as at a party or convention), I tend to attract -- how shall I put this so that I don't sound snobby? -- the losers (to whom my ex-husband refers as the "third tier"). These are the guys who know that they have no chance in hell with the sexy, flirtatious girls, so they trickle down to me because I am "nice" and non-confrontational. This has more than once resulted in men following me around like puppy dogs.

On Internet dating websites, where a picture seems to be worth much more than a thousand words, I often receive messages from men who are closer to my mother's age than to my own. Many men *my* age appear to be looking for women 15-20 years younger than we are. I have since given up on the dating websites, telling myself that they are meat markets in which I cannot compete -- and that they are unnatural environments in which to meet people, anyway.

I had hoped that the other tribes on this website (and you know which ones I mean) would have been more welcoming of a shy person wanting to explore aspects of her personality that she had long kept under wraps. But I didn't feel comfortable in those groups. Instead, I felt like I was on the outside looking in. And something about those groups just didn't feel right for me. They were just way too casual about having sex with just about anyone just about anywhere. While I don't consider myself a prude, I guess that I am simply more selective and discreet. I sometimes wonder if I am too discriminating for my own good -- that is, if my standards are set so high that nobody will ever reach them.

Okay, I have rambled long enough here. Your turn! How does the way people perceive you (through your appearance, personality, bearing, etc.) differ from the person you are inside?

Denise

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Your Weather Report for 2006?

Sat, 07 Jan 2006 21:07:25 GMT

In terms of weather, what is your outlook for 2006? Is it optimistic, such as "Gray skies are gonna clear up...", "The sun will come out tomorrow...", or "Here comes the sun..." (stop me, I'm on a roll!)? Or is it more like, "Raindrops keep falling on my head..." or "The weather outside is frightful..."?

Had you asked me this question this morning (that is, had *I* asked myself this question), I would have replied, "Partly sunny." But in the space of a few hours -- all because of a few words innocently sent my way via e-mail -- my skies have darkened and storm clouds are rolling in. But it won't be rain that falls. It will be my tears.

I often say that I would rather feel (emotional) pain than nothing at all, but at the moment, I wish that I could just flip a switch and become numb all over.

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Feeling Alive

Mon, 11 Apr 2005 14:33:28 GMT

(BTW, I invite anyone and everyone in this tribe to post separate threads of their own with questions, comments, observations, complaints about how the rest of the world just doesn't "get it", and so on. Be creative and remember that you are among kindred spirits! *smile*)

When do you feel the most alive? You may feel free to respond to this question in a sexual context if you wish, but that is not necessary. Besides, such experiences may be beyond words! I know that they are for me, anyway. *ahem*

What makes me feel most alive is feeling CONNECTED to another person. For me, that occurs most often through written correspondence, first because that is my preferred way of expressing myself, and second because writing is my sole method of communication with my closest friends, many of whom I have never met in person, nor have I spoken with them on the phone.

In these days of instant gratification via e-mail, there is nothing more I enjoy than curling up with a good...letter. I am fortunate to have some friends who, even though they have ready access to e-mail, prefer writing me long, long snail mail letters. Receiving such letters makes me want to drop everything and respond right away! Yet writing the proper response, after careful consideration of each word, sentence, and paragraph in my friend's letter, can take a week or more and *lots* of paper and ink!

I also feel very alive (in a state of heightened sensation, one might say) when I unexpectedly hear from a friend of the past. A few years back, I heard from a guy with whom I had taken a college course in particle physics back when we were in high school. Twenty years after the fact, and remembering only my maiden name, he was able to find me on the Internet. That he should have thought of me two decades later made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside. :-) And I dropped everything I was doing and immediately wrote him back.

And then there are those e-mail penpals who make my heart flip just to see their names in my mailbox...

Denise

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Welcome, New Members!

Wed, 14 Sep 2005 01:50:27 GMT

I am pleased to welcome our newest members (and you know who you are). I warmly invite you to jump into any ongoing conversations (threads here are never dead; only sleeping) or start ones of your own.

I apologize for being rather incommunicado lately. I was in a serious car accident two weeks ago. No injuries, but car got totaled and now I am facing a major expenditure for which I hadn't planned. (Good news is that the other guy got charged in the accident. After all, I was going straight through the intersection, and he -- coming from the other direction -- turned left directly in front of me.) Lots of other stuff going on, but too melodramatic to get into at the moment.

In the meantime, I *appear* to have experienced the beginning of what could be a beautiful relationship -- but at my age, I don't even know anymore what constitutes a "date" or a "relationship". *sigh*

But I digress. Enough about me! More about you!

Denise

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"I love you": Confessing it, hearing it

Wed, 27 Apr 2005 14:38:58 GMT

There's a thread on the unrepentant melancholics tribe titled: "Unrepentant Melancholics Throughout History". The question there is: "Which historical figures/celebrities/artists do you think qualify as melancholic? Have they helped you in accepting your own true nature?"

I posted the following from Roland Barthes in "A Lover's Discourse : Fragments" (found here: http://www.koolpages.com/almalaika/Barthes.html ):

Dark Glasses

(The amorous subject wonders, not whether he should declare his love to the loved being, but to what degree he should conceal the turbulence of his passion: his desires, his distresses; in short, his excesses.)

...Yet, to hide a passion totally (or even to hide, more simply, its excess) is inconceivable: not because the human subject is too weak, but because passion is in essence made to be seen: the hiding must be seen: I want you to know that I am hiding something from you, that is the active paradox I must resolve: at one and the same time it must be known and not known: I want you to know that I don't want to show my feelings: that is the message I address to the other. I advance pointing to my mask: I set a mask upon my passion, but with a discreet (and wily) finger I designate this mask.

After I posted the above, I discovered this observation
(found here: http://urania.vineger.net/2002_08_01_archive.html ):

Pourquoi? / Why?

Even as he obsessively asks himself why he is not loved, the amorous subject lives in the belief that the loved object does love him but does not tell him so.

*****
When do you typically tell someone, "I love you?" Right away, when you first realize it? Later, when it's burning inside you and you feel like you'll burst if you don't blurt it out?

Conversely, when do you want to *hear* that someone loves you? The sooner, the better -- or the later, the better?

Last Friday, I had a first date with a guy whom I had "met" through an online dating website. While the date went quite well (meaning: I might agree to a second date), I was disconcerted when, after meeting me only once, he used the L word in an e-mail a day or two later. Fortunately, he didn't use the other two words; instead, the entire text of the e-mail consisted of that one word.

When a guy uses the L word -- or actually comes right out and tells me that he loves me -- too early in a relationship (e.g., after the first date!!), I cannot believe him. While I myself am readily self-disclosing (to a point), seeing such effusive emotion in a guy so soon is *such* a turn-off. Since this particular guy hardly knows me, I suspect that he may "love" me simply because I have a pulse.

The "I love you" that meant the *most* to me was blurted out over the phone by my long-distance penpal -- after we had been corresponding for nearly 11 years. I had told him many years earlier that I had loved him, but it took him that long to get up the courage to confess his feelings for me. I had never *dreamed* that I would hear such words from him, and I will never forget how shell-shocked I was when I finally did. (Alas, we hate each other now. But they say that there's a fine line between love and hate...)

As for me, I typically keep my feelings inside as long as I can. I don't fall in love very quickly (at least not anymore), and when I do, I don't mind keeping it a secret until I suspect that he may feel the same way about me.

Your thoughts?

Denise

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Emotions vs. logic

luriddetails — Thu, 14 Apr 2005 06:04:00 GMT

A friend of mine and I get into this all the time. He sees emotions as these annoying things we have to deal with, and as entirely unintelligent; I think life is pointless without feeling, and mastering both is the way to go--never mind that emotions are so damn hard to control...

How about you all? Are you more logically or emotionally driven? Could you live happily without one or the other? Are they even mutually exclusive?

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Taking Risks

Mon, 11 Apr 2005 14:03:29 GMT

"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom." -- Anais Nin

"The choice to follow any real adventure is measured by this view: When you look back on it, will you be glad you dared, or be glad you didn't?" -- Richard Bach

*****
What is the biggest risk that you ever took for love (or what might have appeared to be "love" at the time)?

To those who have heard the following story before (perhaps more than once), I apologize. But I am getting a lot of mileage out of this story, and the more often I tell it, the less it hurts.

It was a year ago this past Friday that I met in person for the first time my long-distance penpal, a man with whom I had fallen in love solely on the basis of an 11-year correspondence. That first meeting was very short, just a few hours, and it left us both feeling as if we had been dreaming. That is, the reality of our impossible situation had not yet interfered with our fantasies.

Six months ago, we went away together on a trip that lasted for six nights and five days. Beforehand, I knew that spending that much time together would probably destroy the fantasy -- and perhaps any remaining chance of a friendship as well. And that is *exactly* what happened. After our last night together, when I left him sleeping in my own bed as I headed off to work that morning, I knew that I would never see him again.

I had learned that who he was in person was significantly different from the illusion he had worked so hard to create and maintain through his powerful writing. Yet I still desperately miss the man who wrote me those words of passion and strength, even though that man did not really exist.

Am I glad I dared? Yes. I *knew* that I could not continue for years and years without meeting him and wondering "What if?" Further, my knowledge that he was merely an illusion ("Don't look at the man behind the curtain!") gives me the freedom to pursue local, real-life relationships -- relationships that I had passed up when he owned my heart.

Denise

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WYSIWYG

Tue, 29 Mar 2005 15:23:27 GMT

Just in case you're not familiar with the term, WYSIWYG (pronounced something like "wizzy wig") stands for "What You See Is What You Get". The term is often used to describe True Type fonts: what you see on your computer screen when you use these fonts is what you will get when you print the page.

A few days back, I claimed to one of my Tribe friends that I am a "what you see is what you get" kind of girl. A few days after I made my "Appearance vs. Reality" post, it occurred to me that I was contradicting myself. How could I be both?

I resolved this apparent contradiction within myself by realizing the following: While my reserved manner and outward shyness IN PERSON disguise what I like to think is my natural deep, complex, and passionate nature, I am *extremely* honest and self-disclosing in my writing. It's in my writing that people can most easily see the "real" me. I have learned the hard way -- particularly in the context of "meeting" men through Internet dating websites -- that many other people use writing to create the illusion of the people they *want* to be but not necessarily *are*.

I fell in love with such an illusion during a correspondence that lasted 11-1/2 years. Meeting him in person for the first time last year was a HUGE disappointment because he was nothing like the illusion that he had worked so hard to create and maintain through his powerful writing. Now that he is no longer in my life, I realize that I don't miss *him* as much as I miss his writing -- even though I now know that it wasn't real.

When do *you* feel most free and most comfortable to be YOU? In person? On the phone? In writing? Small groups? Large groups? One-on-one? With strangers whom you will likely never meet? With people you have known for a lifetime?

Denise

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I don't love you, I don't need you...

Sat, 21 May 2005 23:14:33 GMT

...and there ain't no way I'm ever going to love you.

I just sent a "Dear John" letter to the guy I was kinda sorta seeing, one whom I met through an Internet dating website. He made a fatal mistake a few days ago when he pleaded poverty with *me*. (He had previously claimed that he's a recording artist who is *this* close to signing a contract with Warner Brothers, which will give him a $500,000 advance. (I never did believe that, but I digress.) I, meanwhile, quit my job last year and only recently found a temp job for survival.)

That there were a dozen other e-mail messages in my mailbox from the guy that I never even bothered to open indicated that deep down, I just wasn't all that into him. (A friend of mine told me about this book: http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/068987474X/103-7860465-9707810?v=glance I haven't seen it, but the premise appears to make a lot of sense. Has anyone here read it?) At first, he had *seemed* to have most of what I was looking for in a man, at least on paper (or screen): intelligence, style, passion, a bit of an edge. But I wasn't in the market for his whining and emotional neediness. I think that dating him would have been like housebreaking a puppy.

Given my abysmal track record with the six men I have met through that particular website (none of whom got past four dates with me), I think it's time that I disable my ad. It's ironic, I suppose, that despite all of my insecurities and fears of being alone for the rest of my life, I am just too damn picky. I would rather be alone than settle down with just *anyone*.

I have been feeling restless, yet trapped. I would like to move *away* from this area, where I have been quite unhappy for the past seven years or so. More than anything else, I would like to live in "single family detached housing", as the real estate agents say. (I currently live in a townhouse, where I lack privacy, a yard, and a driveway of my own.) But houses are completely out of reach for me here. And since my ex-husband (who has custody of our daughters) is committed to this area, I feel as if I have no choice but to stay as well, even though I can't find a local job.

When I consider for how many years I have been so unhappy, I wonder if I should just call it a day (or a life) and give up the search. Maybe I am not destined to be happy, with jobs or with relationships or with my lot in life. If I just numbed myself to disappointment, I could take a mindless, low-paying job somewhere, even though I'm not the least bit interested in the work. Maybe I could just bury the passions I have to use my intelligence and creativity to do something "meaningful". If I haven't found it after all these years since college graduation, it's unlikely that I'm going to trip over anything now.

*sigh*

Denise

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Going Public

Sun, 29 Jan 2006 05:04:04 GMT

Hi all!

I have decided to go public with this Tribe so that requests for membership don't have to go through me. As I need to take a break from Tribe for a while to attend to some real-life matters, I wouldn't want any requests for membership languishing in my absence. Further, a public tribe may inspire more people to join -- and maybe even start conversations! :-)

You may talk among yourselves while I am out of the room. <grin>

Denise

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New Blood...

eric_c — Thu, 24 Nov 2005 01:41:24 GMT

Hi, just found this tribe & I thought the topic was something very interesting.... something I've had a lot of attempts at understanding & so far... well, not a whole lot of success.

But if it's true what they say, "We learn from our mistakes" then - dammit, I should be the smartest man on the face of the planet!

(*laughing*)

I look forward to meeting y'all ... discussing things which peak our interests... starting a few controversies & stirring things up from time to time... and just having a good time getting to know y'all.

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I am too sensitive

MsGlitterDiva — Mon, 08 Aug 2005 00:16:09 GMT

I am feeling very sensitive and upset with a so called friend of mine who asked me to listen to her vent about her friend and now it seems that she feels bad about acting like a stupid bitch and is now trying to tell me that it is my fault. Those were not her words per se but that is the spirit. She feels I did not temper her anger and that I should have calmed. I was floored. I felt like I spent a lot of time listening, reflecting, suggesting and calming her crazy ass the fuck down. No matter what I said she was determined to be angry. Now she tells me "I never said I was angry you told me I was angry" I am like what kind of psycho bullshit is that. Daum. I listened to her crazy ass it becuase I wanted to be helpful and because I did not see where she was coming from a place of maliciousness just being senstive, scared and hurt. I know I can be like that sometimes so I guess I recognized that part of my self in her. But once the issue was resolved instead of her being like oh cool its all good--- her response was to try to tell me that she would not have been so mad if it were for me talking to her. Classic projective identification. I am sodaum mad. But worse is beyond mad my feelings are hurt becuase Iam very sensitive. I try to play fair and live well and daum I feel hurt when others act stupid like this. I am about to go out on a very fun date with someone I really like and here I am worrying about some drama that is not mine. I feel mad at myself because i am just too sensitive. And I feel like a complete fool for trying to be kind to then turn around and get slapped in the face. I wish I did not let silly stuff get to me. I wish I were a cold hearted bitch but that is just not who I am suppose to be in this life time. OK I said it. I am going to try to leave it here in tis tribe so I can go have me some fun. Thank you---Glitter

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secret affair

Rain — Mon, 25 Jul 2005 22:37:19 GMT

I need some advice/encouragement/wisdom. I found out that my boyfriend was planning an affair. we've been on rocky terms, but I feel wronged by this. when I called him on it, he denied it. then when I showed him the evidence, he said it meant nothing, he never planned on going thru with it.

Do relationships recover from transgressions like this? How? I feel like my trust was violated. How can I trust him again? would love to hear other people's experience with this type of thing. If they got over it, and how.
thanks

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plunging in...

Wed, 22 Jun 2005 00:02:57 GMT

so I'm falling deeply and madly in love with a fellow stoic who keeps his cards as close to his chest as I do.

any relationship advice from fellow deep thinkers on how to communicate without sounding psychotically obsessed or glacially cool?

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Summer Heat...

el_Lobo — Thu, 09 Jun 2005 02:20:34 GMT

do you feel your passions rise?

or does time feel less restrained... time for other forms of frivolity in the sun & water???

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relationships...

el_Lobo — Mon, 20 Jun 2005 01:44:00 GMT

what do you do to keep your relationships passionate???

what do you expect your partner(s) to do in th relationship???

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Why do intense, passionate, relationships....

Jahan — Thu, 09 Jun 2005 06:30:54 GMT

...have a tendency to either errupt in unwanted anger..or just burn themselves out? What is the trick to keep the intensity without the nasty backlash? And....why do some of us NEED that kind of intensity, while others are quite happy settling for "comfortable". I'm about to give up....Help!

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Where in the world? (Lobo's question)

Sun, 22 May 2005 21:47:10 GMT

Lobo asked: "how many different areas of the country are represented here and how many different places have you lived (to all members)???"

I was born in Kearny, New Jersey;
grew up in Clifton, New Jersey;
attended college in the East Village of Manhattan (a great time was had by all);
moved just outside Toledo, Ohio for my first job (as a nuclear engineer);
returned to Kearny after a year;
moved to Los Angeles, where my then-husband and I changed our minds about LA;
then moved to Phoenix;
then moved to Cooksville, Maryland;
then moved to Brooklyn;
then moved to Clifton (a nerve-wracking six months with my parents while we were between residences and jobs);
then moved to Bloomingdale, New Jersey; and,
then moved to bucolic Bucks County (in the Philadelphia suburbs) eight years ago.

I found that Toledo was WAY too conservative for a woman engineer -- and that Phoenix was WAY too conservative for a woman with short hair. I'm glad to be back on the East Coast by choice and not by default, but if I had the means, I would move closer to Manhattan. One wouldn't think that 90 miles (between Manhattan and Philadelphia) would make such a difference in people's attitudes, but it does.

Denise

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Welcome aDreamweaver!!!

el_Lobo — Fri, 06 May 2005 21:20:51 GMT

*hugs* & *kisses*

Lobo

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Jump in, the water's fine (nice and hot)!

Thu, 05 May 2005 02:34:37 GMT

I am pleased to announce that we have some new members (and you know who you are!). I would like to extend this invitation to all members, new and old, young and young at heart, to post an introduction, start a new thread, and add to our photo album.

Thanks, and welcome again!

Denise

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"It only takes a spark to get a fire going."

Thu, 31 Mar 2005 06:16:38 GMT

Scenario: You're on a first date. The guy or girl sitting across the table from you at Starbuck's* seems nice enough and you have plenty to talk about, but you just don't feel any...sparks. You can't even imagine kissing him or her at the end of the evening.

Questions:

* How important are sparks?
* Is it reasonable to expect them on a first date?
* Can they be consciously generated?

Denise

* I used Starbuck's because I have had *so* many first dates there. In fact, that's the only time I ever go to Starbuck's.

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Pictures! We need pictures!

Wed, 23 Mar 2005 05:31:06 GMT

Please feel free to place in our photo album whatever pictures make you feel romantic, passionate, sexy, sensual, all warm and fuzzy inside, whatever.

I had forgotten that I needed a picture until I was right in the middle of setting up the tribe. Klimt's "The Kiss" was the first picture that came to mind.

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Hi!

Wed, 23 Mar 2005 00:05:41 GMT

Thanks so much for starting the tribe, Denise! I think that everybody's going to have fun here :)

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Mission Statement

Tue, 22 Mar 2005 16:51:53 GMT

Okay, so I don't really have a mission statement; it took enough of my brain power this morning to come up with a name for this tribe! <grin>

My intention is for this tribe to be a safe place for sensitive individuals such as myself who felt as if they didn't quite "fit in" other tribes of this nature. I purposely left out the words "shy" and "introverted" in the name of this tribe, as I, for one, do not want to be defined by a label that has negative connotations.

Topics that I envision being discussed here may include:

* What is boiling under that calm, cool, and collected facade of yours?

* Appearance vs. Reality in the Dating Marketplace

* Your Hidden Desires

Be creative! Be compassionate! Be comfortable!

Denise

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